Session Protocol

  • Read all sections of this website very carefully and pay particular attention to policies and protocols outlined on this page. Once you have done so, please fill out and submit my inquiry form. I take screening very seriously and I will require proof of identification as well as at least two (2) references. All responses submitted will be kept in confidence and will be used to ensure that our play is risk-aware, trauma-informed, and tremendously fun and HOT.

    I endeavor to respond to submitted applications within 48 hours of receipt, unless I am indisposed. If you submitted an application and did not receive a response, check your email spam folder for an email from me.

    My response will include session availability. For first time clients I will also insist that we schedule a call prior to the session to negotiate the contours of our scenes; go over desires, boundaries, and limits; discuss any accessibility needs; and give you an opportunity to ask questions of me.

    A particular dynamic should never be assumed prior to the beginning of the scene. Accordingly, as we engage in negotiation and planning, please only interact with me as an equal and do not refer to me using honorifics solely (e.g., Mxtress or Mommy or Goddexx, etc.). I interpret the assumption of a dynamic as a red flag. You may refer to me as Mxtress Nin, Dr. Nin, or Athénaïs (my first name) when communicating outside of scene. Those who learn how to properly pronounce my first name will gain my favor—and trust me when I say that you want to gain my favor!

  • I require a non-refundable deposit of 20% of the total session cost upon acceptance of your application and within 24 hours of selecting the date/time of your booking. The deposit secures your booking and a session is not formally reserved until the deposit has been received. I will confirm receipt. Please send deposit payments via CashApp or Venmo! The deposit goes toward both the session fee and any dungeon rental fees.

    The remainder of the session fee (the tribute) will be due in cash at the beginning of session.

    I offer session discounts to other providers, BILPOC folks, queer cis women, as well as trans and non-binary folks. Please inquire!

  • I will contact you within 24 hours of our session to provide you with an address and access instructions for the space we will use for session.

    On the day of your session, please ensure that you are well-hydrated and have eaten within 2 hours of the agreed upon session time. Please also show up bathed and clean.

    Please make arrangements to arrive on time! Sessions begin on time and will end promptly on time. If you are running late, please be sure to communicate that with me ASAP.

    If you require mobility devices, medications, or particular items for aftercare (e.g., a snack, a stuffie, etc.) please ensure that you bring these with you to session.

  • As noted above, deposits are non-refundable. However, if you need to reschedule and contact me at least 48 hours prior to our agreed upon session time, the deposit may be applied to the rescheduled date.

    Cancellations made 24 hours or less prior to our agreed upon session time will require a tribute of 25% of the total session cost.

    The only exceptions to these policies are COVID-, flu-, norovirus, or other serious medical-related circumstances. Please do not even think of coming to session if you are sick and experiencing symptoms.

  • I have been vaccinated and have received booster shots for the COVID-19 virus. I will continue to get booster shots as they are made available.

    Unless there are extenuating medical reasons why you cannot be fully vaccinated and boosted against the COVID-19 virus, you must be vaccinated and be prepared to provide proof of vaccination and booster records.

    I also require that you use an antigen test no more than one hour before the start of session time and provide proof of a negative test. If you do not have access to an antigen test I will provide one but time testing will be deducted from the total session time and you will be required to reimburse me for the approximate cost of the provided test ($20).

Offerings

Scenes

I adore curating and co-creating wholesomely depraved scenes with my submissives, ones that evoke and honor our deepest darkest selves, yearnings, and fantasies.

Scenes will typically take place in local dungeon spaces rented and outfitted specifically for our play. You will find a list of my favorite kinks further down on this page, but more than activities I’m keen to revel in desire, in the feeling tones that invest those activities with meaning.

Sessions are a minimum of 2 hours in length (to facilitate us checking in and negotiating in depth as part of a trauma-informed, risk-aware process), though sessions of 3 hours or more are preferred.

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Kinky Companion

To rework a quip often attributed to Oscar Wilde, I’m a femme with the simplest of tastes: I am easily satisfied by the very best. Whisk me off to a night at the opera! Take me out for a decadent multi course meal! Or treat me to a shopping spree and watch me slide into slinky dresses and model the highest of heels! My tastes are refined, my palette sensitive, and my companionship divine!

In these experiences we will meet in public and enjoy a sumptuous meal (place of my choosing) and/or an event. I love accompanying dates to the opera or ballet, strolling through art galleries, or attending events of import to you. And throughout you will be in the presence and under the watchful, refined eye of Mxtress. Not all kink need take place in dungeons or in private!

And after our date, scenes can continue in a dungeon space. Sessions will never include nudity on my part or sexual activity or genital touch of any kind.

Photo credit: Cat Gold

Kinks & Limits

  • Heavy Impact

    Bruising/Marking

    Neon Wand Play

    Foot worship and gagging

    MDlg/MDlb/MDlo

    Lactation Play / Nursing

    Gender-Affirming Gender Play

    Dollification

    Objectification

    Age Play

    Role Play

    Ritual/Spiritual Play

    Spit/saliva

    Wet and Messy (WAM) Play

    Receiving service (domestic, leather care, tea)

    Lesbian cuckolding

    Auralism (erotic ASMR, reading aloud)

    Latex and Leather

  • I have a special and tender affection for lactation/feeding play. I have taken steps to induce and maintain lactation expression through medication and a rigorous pumping schedule. It is one of the most intimate kinks I engage in. As such and because of the effort I engage in to induce and maintain milk expression, there will be a nominal tribute supplement for scenes that involve lactation play.

    Because of the enormous effort involved in arranging, staging, and cleaning up from wet and messy (WAM) play scenes these scenes will also involve a nominal tribute supplement.

  • I will not engage in toilet play (including scat, piss, and vomit).

    I am not a Daddy. Please never refer to me as such!

    I do not engage in Race Play.

    I will not engage in humiliation or degradation play steeped in gender, sexual orientation, or body shape/size.

    I will not engage in forced bisexuality scenes.

    I will not switch or sub.

    I will not do sessions nude or partially nude (save for lactation play sessions that have been pre-negotiated)

    I do not offer any services of a sexual nature and/or involving genital contact (including CBT or “pegging”).

Photo credit: Cat Gold

Photo credit: Cat Gold